Life coaching offers guidance to clients through mentorship and goal-orienting coaching sessions. Many clients who seek out life coaching are looking for something a bit different to help them push forward and create a positive and healthy lifestyle. I often hear the word "stuck" as most prospective clients feel trapped, frustrated, and have a hard time overcoming fears. Conquering these fears is crucial in order for clients to move forward. Coaching helps to "unstick" clients, define goals, and succeed. Goals might include going back to school, starting a new career, mending a broken relationship, starting a family, or traveling around the globe. Doing the same things over and over again without results can be exhausting. Life coaching helps to develop new, inventive ways to conquer common life challenges.
Survivor coaching is designed for adult survivors of child sexual abuse. Coaching provides an empathic, gentle environment for survivors to share their stories. Child sexual abuse cannot occur without secrecy, and it is crucial to empower clients to speak up about what society has told them to hide for so long; the truth. Worksheets and readings on CSA will be assigned to clients to let them feel less confused and alone in the process. This reading also reinforces a process of self-education on CSA that can be very empowering. Reading the stories of other survivors can help dramatically with the sense of isolation that many survivors feel. In sessions clients learn that the shame belongs to the abusers that committed the act against their bodies and it does not belong to them. The goal is to heal wounds and empower the client letting them feel at peace and free.
Sessions in confidence coaching and development help clients to have a richer understanding of who they are and how they evolved into a person with a low sense of self-worth. We dive into and explore deeply enrooted negative core beliefs and thinking patterns that re-enforce their distorted self-image. By doing thought record worksheets and exercises that challenge and disprove oppressing thought patterns, clients begin to understand that it's not who they are that holds them back, but who they think they're not. When they start to internalize these concepts they begin to "bloom" and thrive. When I have confidence in a client, they begin to have confidence in themselves. That's rewarding.
Stress management Coaching:
Many clients struggle with anxiety due to everyday stressors or major life-changing events. Our bodies respond to stress emotionally and physically and it is a natural human survival process. Stress becomes a problem when we start to rely on negative coping skills to manage it. Unhealthy coping might execute itself in many forms like drugs, alcohol, food, relationships or other addictive activities that soothe clients in the moment. In session, we explore new ways of handling stress using mindfulness skills like breathing techniques, progressive muscle relaxation, visualization meditation, and other skills to allow exposure to stressful things without panic or avoidance.
Before we discuss any intepersonal relationships in session it is my priority as a coach to make sure that my clients have a healthy relationship with themselves. In order to have successful relationships with partners, friends, or family Clients must love themselves first. Clients examine who they are internally and gradually learn to love the person that has been housed within them all along. Many of us depend on others to validate our worth, which can make us feel crazy if our relationships are in a vulnerable place. When Clients love themselves independent of the admiration or approval of others, they obtain one of the highest levels of happiness. Sessions also include skills and tools to improve communication that can be useful in all relationships.
Learning Disability Coaching for children:
As humans it’s hard to feel different from other peers at times, but for LD children this can be very confusing or upsetting causing school to be a place of fear and not academic growth. Sometimes children might feel shame about reading out loud or trying to problem solve confidently in a classroom full of peers. Growing up having gone through testing myself, receiving an IEP, and going to a resource room for half the school day, I felt different and ashamed of who I was as a student. During LD coaching I work to educate the child that their differences make them strong in other areas that they might not be aware of. In LD coaching sessions we set goals and create different approaches to homework time. I teach children tools and skills that might help them learn best with their own unique learning styles. I also can consult with parents of LD kids during the testing process to reassure them of any fears that they might have. LD children can obtain great success with mentors that believe in them, so that they can believe in themselves!